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Attuned Movement
With this game, we listen to others and how they move. This game invites groups to move while widening their awareness to include a whole group.
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When we say no to love
We are all saying no to love. When we dont trust our embodied knowing of others and make ourselves more separate than we are. When we go too far that way we go into projection from resentment or from our own wounding. But it is possible to speak from our true knowing of others.
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The Curiosity Game
The Curiosity Game is a great exercise for quickly landing in connection with friends or strangers. It allows for quite deep meetings within a very short timeframe and is great for introductions and beginnings of events.
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Awareness: A gift of freedom
Awareness can bring the beautiful gift of seeing new possibilities for being in the world. It opens the blackbox of Me and allows me to see my doing as object. However, becoming aware of my own doing comes with its own traps.
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Honesty Gathering 2025
Generally I felt a lot of trust during the Honesty Gathering. It was easygoing and I enjoyed the humility of everyone who was leading there. It was such a contrast to the pressure to perform and conform that I felt at the Field festival earlier this year and I appreciated it a lot.
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Awakening through Art and Meditation
I thoroughly enjoyed the mix of guided meditation and painting practice. I found the whole experience to be simple in the best way and found it just lovely to get to express myself through art.
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The Field Festival
This was the first year of the Field festival and I imagine that the organizers will have a lot of thoughts about what to improve before next year. It is very likely that my experiences has a lot to do with this being the first year of a very ambitious project. However I am wondering if there was a more ...
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Surrendered Leadership as God, Guru & Self
In a Surrendered Leadership circle without an enlightened leader, I trust the practice itself to hold the context. The more I surrender to the practice as God, the more my leadership takes a formless shape to receive all forms in Love.
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The Emerge Podcast
Thematically, Emerge covers a wide spectrum, from metamodernism and sensemaking to meditation, relational practices, and political reimagination. The conversations often weave together philosophy, psychology, and spirituality, offering fresh perspectives on how humans can navigate the uncertainties of the present and co-create more meaningful futures.
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Three people told me I’m a horse’s ass
I am looking into love addiction as a possible rascal sabotaging my imagined intention to co-create a lasting loving relationship. At the heart of love addiction lies the tendency to make another person a higher power, says Pia Mellody (author of Facing love addiction). The road to lasting sobriety involves cultivating a relationship with an appropriate higher power, which can genuinely ...
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How Minds Change
A great book on how to help others change their minds. Put shortly, it's never about giving them the facts that you find useful, but always about creating a safe container and then really listening to them while they investigate their own process of reasoning.
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When God becomes the man I’m hot for
I have created quite the exquisitely dynamic polarized yumzum rating the men I’ve loved as superior – not only to myself but to all the beings of the universe on all the planes. Giving these men more power than they actually have – their power plus my disowned projected power plus plus plus – is sexy, and it comes at a ...
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I yelled at him and all beings were simultaneously awakened
I’m in a hotel room in the paradisiac town of Santa Teresa, Costa Rica, shouting at my lover (it’s complicated) on the phone. My own voice startles me, and in some secret corner of my being I’m impressed. Watching myself act this way is strangely enlivening – a personality bound by conflict averse enneagram 9 sensibility. Bows to my mirror, ...
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The Tao of Leadership
I really enjoyed this one. Someone recommended it to me a couple of years ago, but I just got around to reading it this autumn. The author uses the structure from the Dao De Jing to write about leadership in general and group leadership specifically.
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A deeper sense of service
One night a few years ago I was sitting on a beach with a friend, feeling completely amazed by seeing her in her power. As we were sitting there it was as if I could see mythical world around us and her as a magical being. It felt very new for me. I felt humbled sitting there. And stupid in ...
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Surrendered Leadership: the ecstasy of practicing collective wisdom
This summer at the International Circling Festival in the Netherlands, in a 100-person circle, I reached a new level of clarity about one transformational form of the practice called Surrendered Leadership.
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The Dao of Circling & Surrendered Leadership
The aim of this article is to delineate some Circling skills in the hope that it that can be supportive for the leadership development of the reader. I have used my Tai Chi practice and the 8 “energies” of Tai Chi as the structure for describing some fundamental skills or “moves” within the Circling practice.
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Endlessly waiting as life goes by
I heard a piece of poetry at a Circling and Surrendered Leadership weekend I recently led. A participant described his experience as “endlessly waiting as life goes by” and that struck a deep resonance in me.
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Circling and Surrendered Leadership
I remember my first circling experience as quite confusing and frustrating, but something was also awakened in me that I wanted to explore further. I soon after signed up for the 6 month SAS training with Circling Europe and certified as a circling leader in February 2016.
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