My Essence: A Source of Universal Clarity
I don’t see myself as particularly spiritual in the literal sense of the word, but I’ve always had a peculiar connection to an underlying universal clarity. Even though I’ve struggled with my share of anxiety and stress, it always felt like there was a truth underneath that kept me afloat—a truth different from the psychology I felt trapped in.
When I read “The Four Agreements” around the turn of the millennium, I got my first glimpse that my worldview was a psychic construction, conditioned more by how I saw the world than by how the world truly was.
This became the foundation for a deep interest in exploring how we human beings form our reality, the stories we turn into truth – about ourselves, others, and the world around us. Over the past 10 years, I’ve been on a journey of self-discovery, investigating practices and models that empower us to dismantle these constructions and become authors of our own lives, artists of our own worldview.
The Bridge Builder: Authenticity in the Corporate World
With a history of burnout and stress, it would have been natural to withdraw from the job market with a narrative that it was too hard for “someone like me.” But I asked myself the question: Was that true, or was it—also—just a construction? I decided to test it out, and made a choice to be authentic, honest, and vulnerable. It turned out to be true that “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Today, I thrive as an IT Architect and practice daily what I want to bring to the world: to remain connected, vulnerable, and genuine in an environment where it is not the norm. I lead the way in my work environment with openness and vulnerability, clearly seeing how showing up as myself gives others the opportunity to do the same. The result is a safer and more trusting work place.
Agreement Culture: Clarity Creates Intimacy
My signature practice, Agreement Culture, was born from a crucial insight from the Wheel of Consent and Polyvagal Theory: Real transformation and learning can only happen when the nervous system is at rest.
Agreement Culture is about gaining awareness of all the unspoken agreements we have and improving our intuition and ability to feel into what we want and don’t want.
- It’s a somatic training that covers the bodily path to accessing our desires, limits, and boundaries, and then practicing how to communicate them.
- Consent is an agreement that is by no means limited to touch. It’s also about: Respect, Authenticity/Honesty, Ownership, and Empowerment/Sovereignty.
The purpose of Agreement Culture is to create a laboratory where you increase your connection to your felt yes and no (and the nuances of both), and practice how it feels to communicate things you aren’t used to communicating. This creates a real somatic imprint that makes it possible to actually say no when you are pressured.
What has Agreement Culture truly taught me? It’s incredible what is possible, if you dare to ask for it. Agreement creates Clarity, and Clarity creates Intimacy.
Experience
I have studied and practiced various relational modalities, accumulating a large palette of models, maps, and somatic approaches that I integrate into my work.
I am a certified circling facilitator and have completed the SAS training with Circling Europe twice.
I have deep dived into Wheel of Consent and have done multiple trainings with School of Consent.
I have completed Art of Being Human 1 & 2, am a certified Flow specialist and TFT therapist.
On top of that I am strongly inspired by, among others, Eckhart Tolle, Don Miguel Ruiz, Byron Katie, and Brené Brown and a Course In Miracles.
